It's time to looking for quick fixes and instant gratification and celebration.

November 09, 2021 by Kyira Wackett in Values-Driven Learning

We feel the need to instantly judge our worth or success based upon mistaken beliefs that perfection is the only option when we try for something and unless we get the reaction and celebration from others, it is not worth it. One wrong move and we are a failure, broken or a loser. But by searching for and striving for immediate results — and getting it all right on the first try, we lose sight of the fact that 10 seconds of fame or one more bullet point to add to our resume does not define us.

We are defined by the culmination of our choices, experiences and, more importantly, who we are.

Nothing sustainable happens in one try and it is through the evolutionary process of living that we find true "success" and joy.

Trust me, I get it. We all have a little Veruca Salt inside of us screaming, "I want it now!" Patience is hard. Waiting sucks. Instant gratification feels way better (at least in the moment) than sitting with ambiguity and anticipation. Especially when we already see a path in front of us and guaranteed outcomes, it creates a false sense of empowerment and motivation. But, in my own pursuits, playing the instant gratification game or choosing the path of least resistance to try and get success from someone else's courage, I can tell you that living in a false truth or someone else's narrative never grants true joy.

Emotional Minimalism: Letting Go of the Emotions that Are No Longer Serving You

November 02, 2021 by Kyira Wackett in Grief & Forgiveness

Minimalism, a term that has, ironically, taken up so much space in our cultural constructs today, has dramatically shifted the norm. Owning less. Taking on less. Saying less. All of this is tied to a notion of simplification and decluttering of our physical space; but more importantly, of our mental and emotional space and being. I’ve toyed with what my exact definition of minimalism is and how it fits for me and my everyday life but the one thing I know to be true is the greater clarity, space, and resolution I feel in my life, the easier it is for me to show up fully and authentically in my relationships.

Are you holding on to expired relationships?

October 26, 2021 by Kyira Wackett in Meaningful Relationships

Sometimes, we hold on to people and relationships because they’re comfortable.

Because they’re familiar. They’re predictable. But perhaps, the love or connection has faded — or was never really there.

Ex. The friendship that has drifted apart long agp but you keep saying ‘we should get together’ or the loveless marriage that you stay in because ‘divorce would be too hard on the kids’.

In order to move forward and not get stuck in these unhelpful and often stagnating relationships, we must be able to grieve the endings and gain clarity on the difference between superficial connection and that of depth and truth. Only then can we free up the background processing energy to invest more deeply in the love and connection that is true and real.

How do we actually know if the answer is "no"?

October 19, 2021 by Kyira Wackett in Assertive Communication

If you are spending time talking yourself into a decision or trying to make the “yes” feel more palatable by minimizing the effect it will have on your life (it’s just an hour, it won’t take that much from me), these are signs your body is trying to communicate with you the answer is “no”.

I was listening to an episode of the Tim Ferris podcast where he interviews Diana Chapman, co-founder of the Conscious Leadership Group and a co-author of the book The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership. In their discussion, she talked a lot about connecting with our body and the idea of learning to recognize when we experience a “subtle no”.

What does she mean by this?

Decision Fatigue. The chronic condition we keep perpetuating in our daily lives.

September 28, 2021 by Kyira Wackett in Values-Driven Learning

Have you ever been so exhausted that even the smallest choice feels overwhelming?

Trust me, you are not alone. So what can we do about it?

Did you know that time of day is one of the biggest factors affecting our decision making? It makes sense, right? Throughout our day, we are inundated and exhausted by more choices and tasks that use up our time and energy coins.

This means that, as the day goes on, and our f*ck budget dwindles, we do not have as much time and energy to allocate, leaving us overwhelmed by and/or apathetic to the decisions left to make and often just doing what we can to stay within the status quo.

But the problem is that it is not just a greater sense of hurriedness or apathy that develops. See…