Speak for Yourself: The Power of "I" Statements

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If we feel uncomfortable or nervous in an interaction, it’s hard to speak from our own position. It’s difficult to own our wants or feelings and see them as valid on their own. Instead, we use the “we” to try and convince someone else to see us as right, accept our assertion or legitimize our position.

We need to stop.

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Wait...you can be lonely even if you aren't alone?

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It is incredibly common to feel lonely even when surrounded by people throughout our lives. Connection is more than just location and being around or near others. Connection is about feeling like someone understands you, is listening to you or that you can be yourself around them.

Connection is about feeling a sense of rooting in oneself that is supported by the people you are around.

But how can we understand the difference between the two and what can we do about it?

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Are you holding on to expired relationships?

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Sometimes, we hold on to people and relationships because they’re comfortable.

Because they’re familiar. They’re predictable. But perhaps, the love or connection has faded — or was never really there.

Ex. The friendship that has drifted apart long agp but you keep saying ‘we should get together’ or the loveless marriage that you stay in because ‘divorce would be too hard on the kids’.

In order to move forward and not get stuck in these unhelpful and often stagnating relationships, we must be able to grieve the endings and gain clarity on the difference between superficial connection and that of depth and truth. Only then can we free up the background processing energy to invest more deeply in the love and connection that is true and real.

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