From Playdates to Puzzles: The Complexities of Making Friends as Adults
Making adult friends is hard. But it is not for the reason everyone thinks.
Read MoreSweet Dreams: The Power of a Nighttime Worry List
Do you find yourself tossing and turning in bed, your mind racing with worries and to-do lists, making it nearly impossible to slip into a peaceful slumber? You're not alone. Many of us grapple with cognitive stressors that stubbornly cling to our thoughts, especially when the lights go out. All of the distractions you have had throughout the day suddenly disappear and you are left alone, with your thoughts. You try reading or scrolling through social media, tossing and turning, but it seems no matter how tired you are, the thoughts keep coming back.
That’s because you haven’t put them anywhere else. You haven’t done anything with them so they just keep swirling. Instead of trying to outrun these thoughts or will them away, try this simple yet powerful technique…
Read MoreOne word to change the way you think about yourself.
In our chaotic, achievement-oriented society, it's easy to fall into the trap of measuring our worth by what we do rather than who we are. Our sense of self becomes dictated by how much we accomplish in a given day, linking our value to the tasks we complete, the goals we achieve, or the recognition we receive.
But to what end? What happens to our worth on a day we do less? What happens when we sleep in and aren’t as productive in the morning? What happens if we try something and fail? Are we no longer worthy?
Read MoreYou NEED to forgive yourself
The addiction to and chase to hear these words not just from them but from everyone became the goal of my pursuits rather than my values and intentions.
What good is doing good if you only do it for the gold star? What good is being successful if you lose focus on helping other people? Why do we see bigger ripples as more important and valuable when the smallest act (or non-act) can have the biggest change in someone’s life.
This is all a product of shame.
Read MoreYou're going over budget! You can't afford another "YES"
Our time and energy are finite resources that must be conserved and spent with intention. When we overextend ourselves by trying to say “yes” to everything and everyone, we end up in the red The only way out being a full system shut-down by way of completely shutting everyone and everything out or having a major adult tantrum.
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