Are you alone or lonely? Learn the crucial difference
Are you alone or lonely?
There is a subtle difference in the words themselves but an ocean of difference in the meaning
Are you alone or lonely?
There is a subtle difference in the words themselves but an ocean of difference in the meaning
Have you ever found yourself in a conversation or interaction, wondering how things got from “here to there”?
It seemed like you were just talking when, suddenly, you are hit with a defense so powerful it is hard to respond. Anger — the degree of which seems completely misaligned with the intensity of the conversation. It might not even be anger directed at you but the intensity of this emotion creates a domino effect so powerful that it can filter everything through its red-coated lenses.
Read MoreOne of the cultural norms exacerbated by the pandemic is the overemphasis on and pressure to be positive.
"Oh, how wonderful you can be home and spend this time with your kids" or "It's so great how much more productive I can be now."
Don’t get me wrong. We absolutely need to find joy and anchor on the positive aspects of our lives, especially in the midst of crisis. But the pressure to be "fine" and to have it all together all of the time can lead to "toxic positivity".
Read MoreDo we jump to defense when someone says something hurtful or that feels wrong? Or do we make space for others to have their own thoughts and experience? Are we trying to find a way forward or simply be right? And is it more important to have the other party hear you or react a certain way or can you simply let their reactions go?
Believe it or not, the difference in these answers is what determines who holds your power — you or the other party, or more specifically, you or your shame.
And it all comes down to whether or not you are being reactive or responsive in a given situation.
Read MoreBoundaries are the limits we set — for ourselves and others — as we increase our self-awareness and move forward in creating a life we can thrive within.
Most people, when they think about boundaries, can identify some main ones — physical, emotional, or professional. The truth is, there are 6 main types of boundaries we need to concern ourselves with and focus on in our everyday lives:
Physical
Mental
Emotional
Spiritual (No, this is not synonymous with religious or faith…think more metaphysical)
Professional
Structural (i.e. managing our time, money and resources)
And before you ask, yes, every one of these applies to you.
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