Write Your Own Story. Live That Life / AR.
We are all guilty of over-scheduling ourselves; having ridiculous expectations and pretending we have the time, energy and capacity to do it all without ever needing a break.
The idea of always giving 100% consumes us. But the problem is not that we want to give 100%.
Stop focusing on everything in your past or where you feel you need to go in your future. Pause. Take a deep breath and simply invite curiosity into the space. Ask yourself what you need and want right now. It is within these simply moments we cultivate a sense of calm that can recharge us for the work ahead and help us realign with our true self.
Read MoreI was (and still sometimes am) the person who would vacuum the house and conveniently go around furniture rather than move it. I'd wipe the counters but sometimes "forget" to lift up the appliances and get underneath. Rather than make the bed and straighten the covers each night, I'd just throw the crumpled heap over me and go to bed — usually in whatever shirt I happened to have been wearing that day.
I would overbook myself and not take time to actually sit and eat a meal (meaning I eat while doing 6 or 7 other things), take breaks or be in the moment. I'd rush to complete my checklist rather than invest in the project or task itself, sometimes giving 50 or 60% to a task rather than my full 100% just so I can get it done and move on.
This happened so much that sometimes, I would mentally be on to the next thing before I had finished what I was doing and get flustered if anything held me up.
I watched a TedX Talk a year or so ago given by Mel Robbins where she reiterated multiple times that you will never feel like doing the things you want most in life. I may want to be an early riser, getting up and going to the gym by 5:00 AM, but come the following day, the idea of getting out of bed will sound way less appealing and so I turn over and pull back the covers over my head.
Statements like, "I'll just do it tomorrow" or "I don't really need to change my routine" fill our heads.
We resign to the idea of being "fine."
This results from being only half-motivated. We have developed the readiness to do or be something but lack the willingness to put that drive into action.
We have all felt it — that sense of urgency that makes us feel like we need to achieve success or complete something right now or that we are somehow behind schedule because we are “[INSERT AGE] years old and should have done/been/accomplished that by now”.
I have been feeling it a lot lately — especially with trying to balance my role as a mom and also living in the time of a pandemic. The feeling that I “should” be so excited and feel blessed to have as many opportunities as I do to be with my daughter while simultaneously being able to do and handle all of the things — cleaning my house, running my business, seeing patients…making new content, being creative…food prepping, working out, taking a shower (haha we have all had those days throughout quarantine — kids or not — where the idea of getting in the shower feels it has to be pushed aside to get something else done). This sh*t is hard. And yes, I truly love all of my roles AND I hate how often I feel at odds with the things I want and need to do and the fact that I am always faced with a list running in my head of what more I “should” and “could” be doing.