Life is Not Always Supposed to Feel Comfortable

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We have become so conditioned to avoid discomfort. Between taking a pill, avoiding the stressor or situation (which social media has had a huge help in) and the endless supply of safety nets and snake oil solutions out on the streets, it is no wonder we feel like sitting in discomfort is painful and unnecessary. Why would I be uncomfortable if I can avoid it? Why would I feel pain if there are things to take it away? Why face that hard situation if I can just pretend it never happened?

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Assess Your Investment of F*cks

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Feeling exhausted? Resentful? Overwhelmed? Perpetually annoyed? You are not alone.

Try using this simple exercise I use with clients to help them gain more clarity on what is causing these feelings and how to invest your f*cks — time, money, and energy — to create the life you are excited to lead.

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What are your core beliefs?

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Before we can work towards change and growth, we have to generate insight and for so many of us, it starts at getting to know the deepest depths of our relationship with ourselves. Where is that? Our core beliefs.

Many of you have heard me use this term before. Core beliefs, or the beliefs we hold about ourselves, the world and our place in it, are the base points from which all the rest of our narrative is created. These beliefs are a foundation for communication, self-esteem, shame, managing distress, time management…and more. What we belief to be true about ourselves is the theme in the book of our lives and so, to begin to understand and take control of writing our own story, we have to get down into the weeds of our inner most selves…(read more)

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What's wrong with being confident?

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For too long, the only thing I was confident about was that I would never be able to be confident being myself. 

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could stop feeling perpetually less than? Confident in who we are. Rooted in ourselves and unfettered by the words, norms and expectations of others. 

Well, in short, it IS possible. AND, it takes a LOT of f*cking work!

I have been on a quest for confidence for over 20 years and feel like I am just starting to figure out the steps to actually feeling it versus pretending I do to get through a moment or point in time. 

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