Not getting anywhere in therapy? Have you considered this?

March 15, 2022 by Kyira Wackett in Self-Love

I have felt this way as a client and a therapist. The stagnancy and annoyance where it seems like all you do is come in and give an update about your week or complain about the same things that were bothering you the last time. You talk in circles around an issue but stay tethered to the same anchor points.

You start to wonder what you are even doing in therapy — is this even helping?

You are already overwhelmed and have little time and energy left to give. You consider leaving. But is that what's best? Is the problem the therapist? Is it something else? Before making a decision on whether or not to end your work with your therapist, consider the following:

Don't Ignore The Toddler: The Ways Your Anxiety Will Demand To Be Heard

June 15, 2021 by Kyira Wackett in Distress Tolerance, Fear & Anxiety

We’ve all been through it — directly or not: the toddler demanding attention, calling out for a response when you just need a minute.

“Mom. Mom. Moooooom. M-M-M-Mom. MOM!”

They just want your attention and even though you are just finishing one quick text or getting the food in the oven and will be right with them, that is not fast enough. They have waited…or at least to them it feels like they have waited…and now they want your attention NOW.

This metaphor is a perfect example of your anxiety. All of us have it — the severity may vary but it is there.

How is that thought serving you?

September 09, 2019 by Kyira Wackett in Fear & Anxiety

We have all gotten stuck on a thought — ruminating on a particular point until we feel stressed, anxious and overwhelmed.

“I should have said ‘X’.”

“Why didn’t I do ‘Y’'?“

“They probably think I am so stupid.”

Anxiety often thinks it’s being helpful when it keeps bringing things to your attention. “See, this is important” it says, keeping your line of sight right where it wants you to. The problem with that is that anxiety has a very narrow scope of focus. Like a toddler who spots the Lucky Charms and all they can do is think about needing the Lucky Charms, your anxious brain feels like all it can do is think about this thought.

But is it really helpful?

How do I choose ME?

July 01, 2019 by Kyira Wackett in Self-Love

Self-Care & Self-Compassion.

An over-saturated topic that often leaves one feeling annoyed and overwhelmed when talking about it. We have all been told to take better care of ourselves. We all know the phrase “Put your own oxygen mask on first”. No one needs me to say it to you again. It would be like assuming that someone who smokes needs to be told it’s bad for them.

And yet, compassion fatigue, resentment, neglecting one’s mental and physical health and the inability to put one’s self first contribute to the highest rates of burnout, chronic health issues and more.

So…what gets in the way?

Let's Talk About Sleep, Baby

April 29, 2019 by Kyira Wackett in Self-Love

According to the CDC and the National Sleep Foundation, more than 33% of Americans do not get enough sleep. That is absurd. AND, when it comes to our priorities, the pressure to always perform and handle “all the things” leads many of us to move sleep lower and lower on the priority list.