Learning to Say "NO"

September 16, 2019 by Kyira Wackett in Assertive Communication

There is something genetically embedded in all of us that makes us feel like saying “no” is the equivalent of calling someone a…well, you know.

The pressure to fit in or make others happy leads us to fill our plate and spend our F*CKS — time, money, energy — on things that we don’t want in order to feel validated, worthy or “good enough”.

We worry that by being honest about how we want or need to spend our time will make us seem selfish, lacking compassion, apathetic, or not invested. And so, I find myself in a state of perpetual “yes.”…

Stop Apologizing In Your Emails

April 15, 2019 by Kyira Wackett in Assertive Communication

We have all done it. We took a day or two to send a response or to call someone back and immediately open with:

“Dear Mel,
I am so sorry it took so long to get back to you!…”

Trust me, I get it. We feel bad that we didn’t respond or pick up the phone right when the recipient wanted us too. AND, every time you apologize, you perpetuate the notion that we are all at each others beck and call and that nothing “should have been” more important than responding to their electronic communication. Fuck that.

Words Matter

April 01, 2019 by Kyira Wackett in Assertive Communication

Remember that saying:

“Sticks and stones may break my back but words will never hurt me.”

I call BULLSHIT. What we say to each other matters. What we say to each other sticks with us, informing our core beliefs, fueling shame and leading us to constricting labels and judgments about ourselves that shape who we become.

Learning to Say "NO"

Stop Apologizing In Your Emails

Words Matter

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