You Have Unreasonable Expectations
YOU’RE BEING UNREASONABLE WITH YOURSELF.
Whenever I start working with a new client, I have the same conversation: how do we reframe your goals and expectations to support meaningful and sustainable change and growth. We cannot feel better right away - that is unrealistic and often unhelpful.
We often don't seek help until we are in a deep space of despair and anguish. We feel overwhelmed with pain and distress and long for a "fix" or solution to make everything better or resolved. We need to get back to riding ourselves into the ground so make this pain go away as quickly as possible - and with the least amount of time and effort. I often refer to this as the hunt for a "band-aid solution."
By doing this, we are setting avoidant goals, meaning, "I just want to be anywhere but here, so give me whatever you've got."
And it’s not getting us where we want to go. So, what can we do instead?
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