Accept It. You're not fine. And that's okay.

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Radical acceptance is one of the most powerful processes in the human experience.

Learning to control the things that are actually ours to own — what we say and do, the choices we make in response to the people and experiences around us, how we frame our lives — and letting go of the things that aren’t — external validation and acceptance, what someone else thinks or does, what may or may not happen in the future — is incredibly challenging.

Especially when shame is constantly trying to sidestep your focus to anchor on everything outside of yourself, leaving you justifying, rationalizing, complaining and anchoring on “someday” and “It’s not that bad” fantasies.

I get it; it’s scary to focus our attention on things we can actually do something about. The fear is real and screaming in your face.

And, radical acceptance — nothing will change until you change your positioning.

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What you need to know before you begin "the work".

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Whenever we do any self-reflection or growth work, it is important to know the WHAT, WHO, HOW and WHY before we dive in.

  • What do you want to do, be, have, contribute, etc?

  • Who do you want to be?

  • How do you want your life design to come together?

  • Why do you want it?

This helps us develop what’s referred to as an approach goal.

Approach goals are clear on the direction you want to move in, flexible yet focused and give you the context through which to develop your implementation strategy.

The critical piece of this work is in the WHY.

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