Disappointment: To risk it or choose it?
There is a difference between making a daily choice to live disappointed and risking the possibility of future disappointment.
Choose the latter.
We have no idea what is in store for us when and if we make the changes, do the work, or “go for it”. But we do know that doing nothing delivers nothing but a predictably crappy life stagnated by shame and fear that we will spend the rest of our lives complaining about and trying to escape from.
Need some help figuring out exactly what you want your life to look like?
First, get clear on the role shame is playing in your life.
Then, make space to visualize a future self that isn’t completely overrun by “shoulds”.
Next, get clear on the values that drive you and connect them to this future self.
Finally, assess how you are currently spending your primary resources — time, money and energy — and what needs to change with your investments to help you align your beliefs and actions to this future self.