Rethinking Connection: Is this relationship worth taking into the next year?

December 12, 2023 by Kyira Wackett in Meaningful Relationships

As you inevitably assess your life and consider how you want to evolve in the coming year, stop getting stuck on behavior changes. You don’t need to constantly reinvent yourself. You need to create a life where loving yourself is no longer conditional. How? One of the key things is to consider with whom we spend our time?

As I have been making space for this, I have been sitting with the question…

Convenience is not the goal.

December 05, 2023 by Kyira Wackett in Values-Driven Learning

Change is hard — especially when we choose it.

As much as we may hate our jobs, feel unfulfilled in our relationships, and feel like each day we just exist and perform, it’s easy to let fear drive complacency.

You would rather complain than leave.

You focus on the inconvenience of the change rather than the impact it can have. We begin to fluff up our pain — see it’s not that bad, I can stay.

We run ourselves ragged to keep making our current situation work, telling ourselves we have to “try one last time”.

I did this for years.

Real Talk: Feedback is hard AND absolutely necessary.

November 28, 2023 by Kyira Wackett in Assertive Communication

The idea of open and honest communication, especially when it may be critical, causes us to tense up faster than nails on a chalkboard. The drive to avoid, bury or fluff it up is consuming. We don’t want to sit in discomfort. But we have to.

Guess what? You don't have to go to your family's holiday event.

November 21, 2023 by Kyira Wackett in Meaningful Relationships

Many of you will be with family this week and some of those interactions may carry a lot of weight. You may have already found yourself wishing it was 3 years ago and you had the pandemic to help you graciously back out of something you try and talk yourself out of every year.

Family is hard.

And many of us have such a deep-seated sense of obligation that you can’t even entertain the idea that you have a choice not to be with them.

If tomorrow, your life was exactly the way you wanted it...

November 14, 2023 by Kyira Wackett in Values-Driven Learning

If you woke up tomorrow and your life was exactly as you wanted it to be:

What would your life look like? Consider the who, what, when, why, where and how. Can you describe it with all 5 senses?
What would change? What wouldn’t you be doing? What behaviors, thoughts, and relationships would have ended or evolved?
What would be the same? How would you still be you? What would have carried over?

These questions start to get us at the root of values-driven living. Who do you want to be and how do you want your life to look? The visualization process can be incredibly powerful as it allows you to “try on” your future self. At the end of it, you can still leave it be. You can go on living and being exactly as you are. But it doesn’t have to be. And when you are ready, you can start to turn those dreams and longings into the reality you deserve.

Need a little help going deeper into the visualization? Check out the video I did taking you through the “Future Day Fantasy” exercise.

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