Shame-Free Q&A: Ask me anything

💡 Got a question you've been afraid to ask?

Welcome to Untethering Shame’s Ask Me Anything segment—where we tackle the questions that keep you up at night, make you question your worth, or leave you feeling alone. No topic is off-limits, and no question is too messy.

Here’s how it works:
✔ Submit your question below—totally anonymous if you prefer.
✔ Tune in to Untethering Shame every Monday beginning May 12th, 2025 to hear my unfiltered, compassionate response.
✔ If selected, I may offer insights, strategies, and truth bombs to help you move forward.

Whether you’re wrestling with self-doubt, relationships, career struggles, motherhood, or just trying to navigate this thing called life—I see you. You’re not alone. Let’s untether the shame, together.

 

🔹 Unsure of what to ask? Maybe you’re wondering…

💼 Career & Success

  • Why do I feel like I should be further ahead in my career? I’ve accomplished so much, but I still feel like I’m falling behind.

  • I want to pivot to something new, but I’m terrified of what people will think. How do I let go of the shame of "starting over" at this age?

  • How do I stop equating my productivity with my worth? I feel guilty when I rest, even when I know I need it.

  • I’m in a leadership role, but I feel like a fraud every day. How do I stop waiting for someone to realize I don’t belong here?

❤️ Relationships & Self-Worth

  • I’m in a long-term relationship, but I feel disconnected and afraid to admit I might not be happy. Am I broken for wanting something more?

  • How do I stop feeling guilty for wanting time alone, even from the people I love?

  • I’m terrified of ending up alone, so I stay in relationships that don’t fulfill me. How do I stop choosing comfort over happiness?

  • Why do I feel like I have to shrink myself in friendships so people will like me?

👶 Motherhood (or Choosing Not to Be a Mother)

  • I don’t want kids, but I feel ashamed every time someone asks, “When are you going to have a baby?” How do I stop feeling like I have to justify my decision?

  • I love my kids, but I don’t love being a mom the way I thought I would. Does that make me a bad person?

  • How do I stop feeling guilty when I take time for myself instead of constantly being “on” for my kids?

  • I had a difficult birth/postpartum experience, and I feel like no one talks about how hard this is. How do I process the grief of it not being what I expected?

🏡 Family & Boundaries

  • I set a boundary with my family, but now I feel guilty and selfish. How do I stop feeling responsible for their emotions?

  • How do I navigate family members who shame me for my choices—whether it’s parenting, career, or my beliefs?

  • I dread the holidays because I always end up feeling like a teenager again around my family. How do I break that cycle?

🧠 Mental Health & Shame

  • Why does everyone else seem to have their life together while I feel like I’m barely holding it together?

  • I know I should go to therapy, but I feel ashamed that I even need it. How do I get past that?

  • How do I stop spiraling into self-doubt every time I make a mistake?

  • I thought I was past my childhood trauma, but becoming an adult/mother/partner has brought up so much. Am I broken for still struggling with this?

🔥 Sexuality & Body Image

  • I feel like my desire for sex has disappeared, and I’m ashamed to talk about it. Is something wrong with me?

  • I hate my body, but I also feel guilty for not loving it. How do I stop this cycle?

  • How do I unlearn the shame I’ve carried about sex and pleasure my whole life?

🚀 Dreams & Identity

  • I don’t even know who I am outside of my roles as a partner, mother, and employee. How do I figure out what I actually want?

  • I used to have big dreams, but now I feel like I settled. How do I start believing in myself again?

  • I feel like I’m too old to reinvent myself. Is it too late for me to change my life?

✨ Nothing is off-limits. If you’re thinking it, chances are someone else is too. Let’s break the silence together.